Have you forgotten what it’s like to be in control of your relationship? Does he make all the decisions? Are you ready to take back the reins and break out the whip? Men are like horses, they need to be handles with confidence. If you let them take charge they’ll veer of the path and start eating your neighbours hedge. That’s if they can be bothered to leave the stable at all, when left to their own devices they’ll just sit on your couch watching re-runs of old cop-shows and eating hay. That’s why it’s important for you to be in control of your relationship.
Ok, so not all men are like horses (and don’t we know it), for one thing horses are much more athletic. But just like with horses, the battle for control is a very important part of a relationship. Unlike horses, however, men can never (and should never) be broken in. Men need to feel like they are in control of the relationship, even when they’re not. The trick is to take control without letting him realize it.
Most people have to make sacrifices in order to be together, but there is a limit to how much you should have to give up. If you are the one who is always making sacrifices, turn the situation around and make him sacrifice something for once. If he complains tell him that a relationship is about compromises and it’s his turn to compromise.
Just Say No
In order to be in control of your relationship you need to learn to say no to your partner. If he makes unreasonable requests or demands, tell him ‘no’ and stand firm. It’s important that he respects your point of view and your ability to make decisions for the both of you, so make a statement and don’t back down.
Sharing the Power
These days, most couples share power and make decisions together, this way both partners get to wear the trousers. Of course it’s not always realistic to make joint decisions but the trick is to be in control of your relationship without making him feel like he’s powerless.